I Pegged My Boyfriend

This is What I Learned...

Photo Credit: Jan Kopriva

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The Ask

“How would you feel about pegging me?” my boyfriend said.

We were lying on my bed after work together, stretched out fully clothed on my comforter. The dampened London sky and fading summer sun lipped across us, over the top of the white-painted house just beyond my window.

We had been in a monogamous relationship for a couple months at that point. We had the burgeoning love. We had the trust. We had the good communication about sex. I just hadn’t expected our communication to be that good all of a sudden. I didn’t know that meant revealing our deepest, darkest fantasies to each other. And that I, as the other person in this partnership, might find myself obliged to fulfill this simply because the words had been spoken. Yet I could tell by his voice. He had been thinking about this for a while.